Ask Professor Lately: I Have This Friend & We Have This Weird Chemistry..Should I
I have this friend. We have always had this thing for each other. I don’t know what to call it. Just this weird chemistry. We flirt every now and then and I think we like each other we just don’t talk about it. As a friend he’s great. Always supportive and wants what’s best for me. Sometimes I think about taking it to the next level but I just don’t know. The other day we almost kissed. We both stopped it but I know we both wanted it to happen. He’s a special part of my life and I don’t want us to mess up things taking it to the next level. What do you think I should do?Don’t do it! Reconsider! Read some litera-ture on the subject…. No seriously, don’t do it. Ok, ok *insert rolling eye emoji* let’s look at both sides of the situation. Taking a friendship to the next level is a complex situation, and both individuals need to be prepared for whatever may come next. I am bias on this situation because I have been put in this situation before, and let’s just say it didn’t go well. A friend and I took our relationship to “the next level” and everything was great at first. Then I realized I wasn’t ready for everything that came along with our situation, and I ended up hurting them unintentionally. I instantly lost my best friend. The person I did everything with. The person that understood me more than anyone I thought could. I will never get that back. If I could turn back the hands of time, I would want my friend back without question. Even though now we have both moved past that situation, we will never be the same again. If you are going to take your friendship to the next level, there needs to be an open and honest line of communication first. Talk openly about your intentions and where you both are hoping things go. If there are doubts that can’t be reassured, consider those strongly! Remember that this person is your friend, and you never want to put them in a situation where they could possibly end up heartbroken. Moving past a friendship could possibly be the best decision ever if handled with care. The person you consider your soul mate should of course be your best friend. So, in that case you guys would already have step one taken care of. Just be careful. Don’t take advantage of the situation and think they will always be there because they have always been there before. A relationship changes the entire ball game.-xo
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HBCU grad. Soror. Entrepreneur. Aspiring Author. Superhero by day and blogger by night. Jeremy is a graduate of Prairie View A&M University, where she obtained a B.A. in English with a minor in Communications, specializing in Journalism. Learning lessons from her random everyday experiences, allows her to give a witty outlook on life issues.