Controlling Your Narrative
is anyone else just going through life like “yeah i just gotta get past this last difficult week & then it’s smooth sailing from there!” but like… every week
— rav (@Doughbvy) March 24, 2018
Scrolling Through twitter I seen this tweet, and it spoke to me in such a way that I had to write this article.
We have to realize that we have the power to determine what type of week we’ll have, regardless of whatever obstacles/ situations life may throw at us. There is power in the words that we speak over our lives and around the situations we’re all experiencing.
If we decide to focus on the negative or allow the draining aspect of life’s problems to beat us down, is getting through it as fulfilling? To me the answer is no, because I’m already in a defeatist mindset that I can’t possibly be grateful that I’ve overcame, applaud my strength or thank those who help me along the way. “ the woe it’s me” victimized attitude is draining within itself and for that to be self-inflicted is 10x worse.
It takes time, discipline and effort to get out of our own way aka exuding self-care, which is the solution to feeling like “one more week and it’ll be smooth sailing”. No matter how busy you are or what’s on your plate, you should always find a positive in your day.
For example: You get laid off from your job that you showed up to on time, you work long and hard; however you didn’t necessarily have the best energy towards, because you have plan of doing something else.
Instead of feeling down because this is the end of something you thought was going to be stable until you were ready to leave, think of it as a blessing a force pushing you to stop stalling and pursue your dreams. It could always be worse than what you’re going through just be thankful that you have an opportunity to go after your passion, verses someone who opted to sulk now 30 years later regretting their decision to stay down and out.
We get so caught up in the negatives and self victimization that we forget that it could be much worse, that somewhere in this world someone is experiencing worse and instead of sulking they’re looking at the endless blessings and possibilities that they do have/ receiving.
All you have to do to start the process of self-care is look at yourself mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. Assess the problems you cause on yourself (the way you think, the way you speak, who you’re surrounded by etc.) and begin to hold yourself accountable for manifesting a defeatist mindset “I can’t get through this it’s too hard” “If it’s not one thing it’s another” etc etc.
Get a Gratitude Journal and write all of the things a situation you’re going though has shown you about your, write about what you appreciated about the day, what you feel like you’re changing for the betterment of self. Be grateful for able to learn how to change your narrative.
I did an interview in January with Ashley Dunn a phenomenal stylist and I always reference back to this part of the interview but it spoke to me and made me check myself, “Things will get difficult it will be hard, in those times of difficulty we need to be able to tap into a spiritual power oppose to saying its hard I quit. With this experience it taught me self-confidence and believing in the power of me, nobody can put a price tag on yourself but you.” -Ashley Dunn
That in itself is one of the greatest gems I’ve ever received, moral of the story is to no be your own worst enemy but to be your biggest fan despite the countless ups and down you control your narrative so make sure it’s a positive one.
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23, Blogger & Athletic Trainer with a passion to help heal others through various forms.