Updated: I Don’t Date Black Woman – “Response From A Black Man”
One of our readers wanted to respond to this topic. He asked if he would provide us with a Black Man’s Perspective. We happily accepted his perspective!! See what he has to say in response to Black Men not dating Black Women.
“Black Women Are Crazy”. This micro statement, with macro implications, has been uttered by too many Black men over the years. To understand and love a black woman is to know and understand yourself as a Black man. Understanding the black woman’s, struggle in conjunction with the hypersexualization of black men, character assassination of black women in media, and privilege of white women, have further perpetuated the fallacy of the “Angry Black Woman”.
A functional understanding of Black women is something that people take no time to acquire. Century after century Black women have had no other choice than to be the matriarch of the family. Times when the husband would receive lashes from the master; who was there to heal his wounds? When the oldest son was hung for stealing food; who was there to secure the emotional stability of the family? I think Black men don’t take the time to recognize this. To date, Black women literally stand on the front lines of the Black Lives Matter movement while we demonize them and glorify the Kim Kardashian or the world.
There once was a time where women would go to college for their M.R.S degree. Women, particularly white women, would use college as a way to find a husband. I say particularly white women because during these times women of color were not allowed to pursue higher education. These women were guided to find a man who can support them financially. Dating a Black man would be out of the question, however dating a Black athlete secured financial stability to which was an exception to the rule. Not to mention that Black men more than any other gender-race combination get over sexualized on a daily basis. To the point where there is a complete pornographic subcategory for it.
Lastly, the character assassination of Black women in mainstream media has got to stop. Up until a month ago, we never knew Black women worked at NASA in the 1950s. However, we do know exactly when Love & Hip, Bad Girls Club, and Hollywood Hoodwives of North Central LA comes on. To be Black in this world is to love and accept all African Americans. So we ride for Cardi B the way republicans ride for Alternative Facts. That’s great! I’m here for it. I’m also here for shows like Blackish, Atlanta, Insecure and Broke. These shows depict women as Doctors, Writers, and Attorneys.
Thus! Black women are not crazy. Black men, we need to get it together. I charge you to understand, appreciate, PROTECT and love black women.
“I would never date black women” once said a black man.
I will never understand why a man, especially a black man would say anything like this. I also don’t think black men understand how hurtful it is to hear this come out of their mouth. When you tell a black woman that you would never date them and their skin is the same color as yours, you sound crazy. To all the black men who have stated this comment you do understand your mom, grandmother, sister, and aunt are all black women. Saying this is like basically saying as a black woman we aren’t deserving of love and then you want to throw a white girl in our face as if she’s “better.”
See the problem our brothers will never understand is that we don’t care if you date white women just don’t belittle or talk down to black women in the process. Black women are Queens and quite frankly if you aren’t going to treat us as such we’ll find somebody who will. See as black women we see ourselves as the cream of the crop and the crème de le crème, so we don’t need validation. What we need are our brothers to stand beside us instead of tearing us down.
And honestly, I think black men make the comment because they know the power black women possess. It’s no secret that black women are the fastest-growing group of entrepreneurs in America just like it’s no secret that black men are sometimes intimidated by black women. So when a black man wants to fit all black women into a stereotype by calling us all ghetto or controlling we know that’s just a cover-up. You can’t generalize an entire race. We know it’s the fear and intimidation that’s holding you back and instead of challenging yourself you find someone who’s weak-minded and not intimidating to make yourself feel better.
The moral of the story is that as black woman we know all too well about the struggle. We’re already looked down upon by a number of races. So Black Man send love to black women, send words of positivity. You don’t have to date us or even desire us we just ask that you respect and support us as we do the same for you.
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My name is Miranda Brown. I am a proud Alumna of Tennessee State University class of 2016. I am from Franklin, TN a small town right outside of Nashville. I am very much so an introvert, but I do tend to sometimes come out of my shell as I'm known as the extra-dramatic friend. I love writing and blogging even more. My favorite quote is, "reality is wrong. dreams are real" - Tupac. I'm all about being positive and spreading good vibes.