Get Active: How to Avoid Being a BORING College Student
College is arguably one of the most exciting times in a young person’s life. You get to make mistakes all while still experiencing life from the lens of a grown-up/young adult. You get to party, acquire new information, and avoid paying bills all at the same time. Did I mention that you don’t have to worry about paying bills? #Winning. That being said, the last thing you want to do is go to college with an extra dry, tedious, and BORING disposition. Sure, some young adults enter college having come from a sheltered living environment, and once they get to college they are too shy to step out-I get it. But trust me, you’ll be doing yourself a disservice if you don’t break the habit, take a risk and step out of your comfort zone. Life is all about happiness and opportunity and you can’t achieve either if you’re always declining invitations to hang out with friends. Not only can a boring personality hurt your personal relationships, but it can also hurt your professional connections. Now, I want to be clear here. I’m not saying that to be considered a “cool” person you need to party, drink/smoke/ or do anything that you don’t want to do. However, what I am saying is, don’t go to college, sit in your dorm room for the entire 4-year period and expect greatness to happen. To be great, you can’t be a bore. See below for 5 ways to avoid being boring in college:
- Engage w/ People: This one is self-explanatory. Engaging with others through conversation, even if it is uncomfortable will make you a less boring person. Think of a few topics to serve as your “go-to” conversation starters. Knock on your suite-mates room door and ask she/he if they want to chill out in the lobby. Keep topics like sports, politics, and the weather on the forefront of your mind, so that you are able-to carry conversation with anyone at any given moment. I’m sure your peers will begin to think you’re a really awesome person just because you’re not afraid to talk to them.
- Educate Yourself: As I stated above, one of the easiest ways to not sound boring is through the art of communication. But the key here is to know what you are talking about. Although judgment is wrong-it happens, and people will judge you based off your speaking abilities. Be sure to stand out from the crowd by being knowledgeable about more than just rap music, the Kardashian’s, and Real Housewives of Atlanta. What do you know about astronomy? The African diaspora? HBCU’s? A person who can hold conversation about various topics is almost never considered boring.
- Join a Club/Organization: For college students, joining a club or organization can serve as a catalyst into making lifelong friends. Additionally, being a member of a modeling troupe, or serving with the student government association will keep you busy, sharpen your interpersonal skills, and strengthen your overall demeanor and attitude.
- Volunteer: Volunteering is one of the best ways to stay active and meet new people in college. Even better, volunteer hours sometimes count towards college credit. Check with your career services office. Become a volunteer not only to become more active but to make a difference in the community in which you live.
- Be an Active Listener: Active listening occurs when two people have a conversation and while one is speaking, the other is nodding in agreement and acknowledging that they understand what the speaker is saying. This is different from just basic listening. Active listening truly helps to demonstrate your respect for others and in turn will cause all your friends to say “Wow, she/he is a really cool person!”
So- now you’re equipped and ready to be one of the most popular kids on the block during your undergraduate years. If there is one thing I NEED you to take away from this post, it is the fact that college should be the best time of your life. While you’re there, take advantage of every opportunity that comes your way, get involved, and don’t hold back. The four (maybe five for our late bloomers-it’s ok-shoot YOUR shot) years is going to fly by and you don’t want to end up saying “I should have…” or “I could have…” Get up, get out, and be FABULOUS honey!
How else do you think college students can avoid being boring?
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Kendra Sharp: Scholar. Entrepreneur. Member of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated. Black Higher Education Advocate.