How To Prioritize Your Love Life Like A Job Hunt To Get The Relationship You Want
I was always the girl that thought that if a man wants me he’s going to come to me and the woman shouldn’t have to do anything but sit on her throne, but then I ran into a plethora of barriers as a result of that stance.
1) I was only choosing from the pool of men that approached me and I would get mad when I only got approached by men I didn’t care for.
2) Sometimes I can look unapproachable, especially if I’m headed somewhere.
3)I was missing out on guys I wanted to talk to but didn’t approach because of my stance.
So, I found myself in a place of frustration and if I wanted to surpass these barriers I would have to change my method. That is when I realized the importance of being proactive in making my love life flourish.
Currently, I’m on the job hunt and I’ve also been more proactive in my love life. One day while doing both at the same time I realized how much alike they are.
When you’re job hunting you don’t just expect the job to fall into your shopping cart while you’re at the local supermarket. You have to go out and get it! You’re making sure your resume is appealing, you’re filling out applications on every website and in every business, and you’re going on interviews. You are now taking a proactive role in getting something that you want.
After a company reviews your resume, they’ll call you in for a job interview. During that job interview, you have the opportunity to see if this company is the right fit for you. What are the company values? What is the work environment like? How does this company treat its employees? All of these questions will help you and the different companies get a better feel for each other.
All of this can be applied to dating. Going on job interviews is equivalent to the first date. Now, if you only go on one date then your chances of getting the type of relationship you want is slim. This is where being proactive comes into play. In order to increase your chances you have to find a variety of ways to ensure you go on as many dates as possible. That can be done by being bold and approaching people you’re interested in, online dating, speed dating, matchmakers, and other methods.
As you go on dates, you’ll get a better feel of each person and vice versa. Out of all of these dates you go on you may get five or six prospects that want a second date. These prospects put you in a position of power where you can choose which one you believe is better suited for you. By being proactive in your love life, you decrease your chances of settling for less because you now have more to choose from.
They say insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different outcome. If you continue to wait for things to come to you, then you’ll always get what you always got. So, take a different approach and be more active in changing your outcome.
Bianca Baymon84 Posts
I have recently earned my BBA from the University of Houston and I am a native Houstonian. My background is in human resources, so I have an understanding of what motivates people and their actions. As a result of those things, I merge my personal, professional, and college experience to write blogs that everyone can relate to.