Why He Ghosted You
Every girl has this same story. You meet this amazing guy and you two exchange phone numbers. From there begins the never ceasing text messaging and phone calls for weeks or even months. He seems like someone you could really be in a relationship with.
Then all of a sudden the text messages stop, the phone calls are directed to voicemail, your FaceTime attempts go ignored, and your heart breaks. You have just been ghosted.
This moment is where you will begin to question everything. Did he ever like me to begin with? Was I not good enough? Was I not pretty enough? Was I not skinny enough? Was I not thick enough? All of these questions will enter your mind as you attempt to answer the main question which is why he ghosted you.
From personal experience with ghosting and reconnecting with those that have ghosted me, I found the answer every girl has been searching for. It’s not a magical answer or anything too complex. Matter of fact the answer is simple. He wasn’t ready for the woman that you are and wasn’t man enough to tell you that.
As a woman, it has been proven through research that women mature faster than men. That also means that women are ready for relationships at a younger age than men.
While we are visually writing their names with XOXO in our minds, they are still pressing the “X” and the “O” on their PlayStation controller. That is a childish comparison, but ghosting is a childish way of handling relationships in life so I had to get down to that level to make some sense out of it.
Do not mistake what I am saying with the concept that no man is ready, but the ones that ghosted you were not ready.
They weren’t ready for a strong and independent woman that could pick up the tab if her man had to spend his entire paycheck on new tires. They weren’t ready for a woman that could be just as funny and smart as they were. They weren’t ready for a woman that could cook a meal, feed her man, but then exchange her stilettos for black business heels as she runs off to meet with the CEO. They weren’t ready for a powerful woman.
A powerful woman can be intimidating to a man that has not matured enough to realize that just because a woman is powerful does not mean she will overpower his masculinity. A man that has not matured relationship-wise will not be able to grasp that concept and there is nothing you can do about it.
So, the next time a man ghosts you I challenge you not to let the questions of insecurity tropical storm your mind. I challenge you to look in the mirror and simply say “He wasn’t man enough to handle the powerful woman that I am.”
Bianca Baymon84 Posts
I have recently earned my BBA from the University of Houston and I am a native Houstonian. My background is in human resources, so I have an understanding of what motivates people and their actions. As a result of those things, I merge my personal, professional, and college experience to write blogs that everyone can relate to.