Will Your College Friends Be There For A Day, An Extended Stay, Or A Lifetime?
Even if you wear pink on the wrong day of the week, “you can’t sit with us” is a phrase you will never hear during your first year of college. It humors me how so many incoming freshmen seem to worry so greatly over if they will make college friends. I think that a large amount of them seem to forget a very important detail which is as a freshman (for the most part) NOBODY KNOWS ANYONE! Long gone are the days were you could walk down the halls recognizing everyone you pass. And because of that fact making friends during your freshman year will probably be one of the easiest things you do. From orientation to “mandatory” hall meetings you will be surrounded by people who just like you are looking for a place to fit in.
My freshman year I remember making friends almost anywhere I went. I can recall one morning during the first week of classes walking into the dining hall and being nervous over not knowing anyone and potentially sitting alone. However, once I had my tray of food and found a table to sit at it wasn’t long until five random girls (all incoming freshman) walked up to me and asked if they could sit with me. During our meal we all exchanged numbers and spoke about how we were so excited to finally be in college, we even made plans to link up again.
The girls I met during that breakfast were a fun bunch and we did hang out a few times after that. Nevertheless, the more I got into my classes, joined clubs, and become busier, the less I saw of my little “breakfast club”. In high school when friendships start to fade away, I think there is a part of you that notices but in college, that is not always the case. It is very easy to go from hanging out with someone every day to simply waving hi when you pass each other on campus.
This is exactly what happened between me and the girls I met that morning, the random boy I met while doing laundry, and even my roommate. I found that during my freshmen year of college friendships were continuously changing and evolving. The people I considered my friends at the start of freshman year were completely different from my friends by the end of that year. And if I’m being honest with you all, the friends I currently have as a junior are a million times different from the ones I ended my first year with.
During your first year of college, you will make a lot of what I personally like to call “filler friends”. Which are people who you hang out with for the sake of having someone to hang out with. Filler friends do have their benefits and can be fun but eventually, those relationships will start to fade away. Which can lead to you wonder why you are losing the many friendships you formed so easily during your first year. Do not look at it like a loss or a bad thing if you look up sophomore-year and realize certain people are no longer around. As time goes on and semesters change, you will eventually find a true group of friends and once you do it will honestly feel like you’ve known each other forever. Never feel bad over friendships fading in college, especially after year one, because true friendships can never be rushed and luckily once formed they seem to last a lifetime.
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Twila-Amoure McDaniel is a college student who is majoring in both communications and film studies. When she isn't in class she is more than likely somewhere making videos for her YouTube channel. Her passions include writing, art, and film-making and she currently has plans on going into the film industry. Twila-Amoure does have crohn's disease, however she is very determined not to allow that to stop her from achieving all of her goals in life. Be sure to follow her on all on her social media platforms @TwilaAmoure and feel free to browse through Campus Lately for more of her work.