The Woe’s Of Millennial Dating
Dating period is already a process, but dating as a millennial, that’s a whole different ball game. Every time I gather with my friends the topic of discussion always seems to land on dating. Dating is boring, dating is fun, dating is too much, dating is hard work, but I guess we all have our own opinions. As a millennial I think a lot of us are searching for that love we saw displayed on the 90’s sitcoms or even what we saw in our homes. Boy have times changed.You don’t see a lot of Dwayne and Whitley, Martin and Gina or Cliff and Clair relationships anymore. You just don’t. Some people yearn for that type of affection and others don’t. These days people are too focused on the Gucci and Keyshia type relationship calling them goals as well as other celebrity couples, but the question is when are you going to become your own goal.
Since when is holding your n***a down after he’s disrespected you time and time again a goal? No relationship is perfect, but nobody should be expected to stay with anyone when they have been disrespected multiple times. And no one deserves praises for sticking with anybody through thick and thin. Somethings you can overcome and other things just make you look dumb, but that’s the society we live in. It’s okay to have role models in life and want to mimic what you see, but I guarantee you if majority of the people on this earth got to speak to their role model they would tell them to be better than them.
My personal opinion on dating is I definitely think in today’s society dating is more difficult. It’s all about the type of relationship you want to have. A lot of people are okay with just being together with absolutely no goals attached except to start a family. Some people want to spend their younger years, like their twenties exploring, dating and having fun. Even now we have apps that have made it easier to find someone to date, such as tinder, plenty of fish and bumble. For some reason they don’t work either because apparently people are using them as hookup apps. Not to knock anybody who does such because we’re all entitled, but it’s discouraging when you’re looking for something real and people aren’t even having to work hard for intimacy because some are handing it out like it’s candy on Halloween.
Music also plays a factor and is more of an influence when it comes to dating and life in general. When songs are encouraging you to smash chick after chick and toss that one then people are going to oblige because it’s “cool.” What rapper really lives that life though? Future, Gucci, Wayne, Drake, Kanye, Meek Mill, Jay Z, Nas and T.I. have all been in serious relationships if not married. Yes, they may still rap about it, but it’s not their reality. Some people these days will literally not “settle” because they still want to be out here h****g male and female. Then ten years from now look back like “d**n, I should’ve snatched him or her when I had the chance.” Then others want to be in a relationship just to say they’re in one and dog their significant other the whole time. What’s the point?
Social media I swear is the devil when it comes to relationships. Yes it’s your responsibility to respect your significant other and not cheat, but when you have people out there male and female who don’t care how long you have been with whomever and just over step their boundaries until some give into temptation it makes it harder. If people could just focus on what they want and not what society says then I feel as though more relationships might happen and we’ll hear more success stories. Nobody wants to put in the work and genuinely express their emotions these days. It’s all about what others perceive as being “cool” when you should be able to be you, do you and not care how others view you.
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My name is Miranda Brown. I am a proud Alumna of Tennessee State University class of 2016. I am from Franklin, TN a small town right outside of Nashville. I am very much so an introvert, but I do tend to sometimes come out of my shell as I'm known as the extra-dramatic friend. I love writing and blogging even more. My favorite quote is, "reality is wrong. dreams are real" - Tupac. I'm all about being positive and spreading good vibes.